Inner Discovery: Unveiling the Self, Embrace Awareness to gain happiness.

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In the past years, millions of people have been grappling with mental struggles, even those who seemed the strongest or most busy. It's essential to shed light on this and raise awareness about the challenges people are facing in their minds.

Personally, I've always strived to be kind and please the people I loved, often neglecting my own happiness to make them happy. But this approach led me down a path of dark thoughts whenever I felt hurt or depressed.

For about 20 years, I lived this way until I realized that true happiness comes from living my own life to the fullest. Trying to appease someone just to avoid hurting them can be harmful to your own well-being and can lead to unconscious pain that lingers for years, if not a lifetime.

Feeling unstable or anxious when alone, or craving to step out of your comfort zone while being on your own, is entirely normal and okay. However, if you are surrounded by people who claim to “love” you but all you see is anger and conflicts, it's a toxic situation that needs addressing.

I made that mistake repeatedly, leaving toxic situations only to find comfort in a new “love” or situation, and then making foolish decisions, losing sight of my own happiness. Sacrificing my dreams and things I loved just to avoid misunderstandings with someone beside me only resulted in anxiety, depression, and anger.

Moreover, I wasted so many years and energy, and now it's challenging to mend some of those moments that will forever linger in my mind. I often get flashbacks whenever I try to escape them.

But I consider myself fortunate because I am strong enough to recognize when it's time to grow. Not everyone can identify that crucial moment when they need to act in their own best interest. So, if you truly love someone, ask yourself first: Am I happy? Is this what I want? Am I sacrificing too much of my life? Am I where I want to be?

Loving someone means meeting halfway, a 50-50 compromise. Any small imbalance in that percentage will lead to “submission” in one of the partners, and after a few years, regrets will start to pile up, accepting things that don't bring happiness or peace.

The solution lies in taking care of yourself, loving yourself, treating yourself like an asset and detoxifying your body and your circle of people, even if it includes family. If someone is holding you back or suppressing you, distance yourself from them. You don't owe an explanation to people just because they are family or your employer. Focus on your own well-being and happiness first.

Your life is your life, take care of it! Embrace it wholeheartedly and live it to the fullest. Make each day meaningful, pursue your dreams, and find happiness within yourself. Don't let anyone make you feel inferior or hold you back. Live your life authentically and passionately. Be kind to yourself, love yourself, and be the guardian of your emotional well-being. Remember, you are the author of your own story, so make it a tale of growth, love, and personal fulfilment.

Two books that helped me realise where I was and what I had to fix are:

"The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment" by Eckhart Tolle:

This transformative book delves into the concept of living in the present moment and letting go of past regrets or worries about the future. It offers practical insights and exercises to help readers break free from negative thought patterns and find inner peace and clarity. "The Power of Now" helped many individuals become aware of their current state of mind and provided tools to create positive changes in their lives.

https://amzn.to/3kpMmF8 "You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life" by Jen Sincero:

With its humorous and relatable style, "You Are a Badass" is a self-help book that encourages readers to embrace their worthiness and unleash their full potential. It challenges limiting beliefs and empowers individuals to step out of their comfort zones to pursue their dreams fearlessly. Jen Sincero's book has inspired many to take control of their lives and make the necessary changes to achieve personal growth and success. https://amzn.to/3pTKqfs

After I graduated in marketing management in Denmark, studying and working full time, having a part-time job at the weekends, and still being able to travel and see people, I wrote a specific book for people like I was. A single man over 30 that wanted to be in charge of his own life. I put in the book all the learnings I got from 7/8 self-help books I read (international bestsellers) and tons of videos of the most famous motivational speakers, plus my personal planning techniques, and life experiences.

This is my creation: "Finding Purpose After 30: A Guide for Getting Motivated and Organised as a Single Person" by Sergio Alfarano https://amzn.to/44xAmYq “Finding Purpose After 30” is a comprehensive resource for individuals who may be feeling a lack of direction or dissatisfaction in their personal and professional lives. This book provides practical tips and exercises for discovering your passions, setting achievable goals, and building a more organised and fulfilling life.

As a single person, it can be challenging to navigate the ups and downs of daily life while searching for purpose. This book offers guidance and support through the process of self-discovery and helps readers find their motivation and direction. With this self-help tool, you will learn how to identify your core values, set meaningful goals, and cultivate a supportive network of friends and family.

The author provides insights on the benefits of mindfulness, self-care, and organization, and how they can help you maintain your motivation and purpose. You will learn how to declutter your life and create a daily routine that prioritizes your well-being.

Whether you are searching for a new career, exploring new hobbies, or simply seeking greater fulfilment, “Finding Purpose After 30” provides the tools and support you need to make meaningful changes in your life. This book is an inspiring and empowering resource for anyone looking to take control of their future and live a more purposeful and fulfilling life.

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